Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

If you put a barrier in front of the flowing water, the water will have to go somewhere. It will go around or over the barrier, or eventually, if it has nowhere to go, it will reverse and head back toward the source (meaning your child will turn his emotions upon himself). No matter what, the water will flow somewhere. You cannot stop the flow of your child’s feelings. So please don’t try.

Remember what causes guilt and shame in the emotionally neglected? It’s the absence of parental acceptance and validation of the child’s feelings,

Do unto your child as you wish your parents had done unto you.”

Do unto your child as you wish your parents had done unto you.”

Reflect back to your child the academic skills with which she naturally excels. Reflect back the skill with which she tends to struggle,

Mutual interdependence means that both parties in the relationship are capable of a healthy level of independence and self-reliance, but each member of the relationship relies on the other for some things and at some times.

the only way to give your child what you don’t have yourself is to provide yourself with what you don’t have.

The worst time to try to figure out what works for you is when you need it the most

As an adult, you can re-parent yourself in this area by basically rewiring your own brain.

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The internalized parental voice is extremely important, a