Pease Barbara

Humans are the only species that is confused about the mating game

Imagine that your brain has an operating system like a computer. You’re born with it, and it has default positions that it retreats to when it’s under stress—that’s the nature part of us.

. The nurture part is our environment, and our environment is the software that runs on our hardware.

Nature = our brain’s hardware
Nurture = our environment

today’s men are turned on by visual images and by the signs of a woman’s health, fertility, and youth, whereas women are turned on by the markers of a man’s power, status, commitment, and material resources—

If you’ve ever experienced love at first sight, your brain was producing huge amounts of the chemicals dopamine and nor-epinephrine, which make you feel almost as if you are on drugs

love at first sight is a real phenomenon

Testosterone makes men hairier, bigger, stronger, more aggressive, and hornier than women.

As quickly as a man can get an erection, his oxytocin dissipates, which is the reason why after-sex cuddles have great importance to women and limited appeal to men.

The more oxytocin they produce, the more nurturing they will be and the more deeply they will bond with someone. Just hearing their lover’s name, an odor associated with him, fantasizing about him, or hearing

a song connected with him raises oxytocin levels