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Colm O'Connor

The Courage to Love: Surviving and Thriving in Your Relationship

  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    Courage includes tolerating your own inadequacy, accepting your own limitations, inhabiting your helplessness, befriending your limits—and still having confidence in your own self. It takes courage to stop self-rejection. It takes courage to stop thinking that there is more you should be doing, there is more you should have, there is more you need to chase.
  • Metalledje citiralaprije 2 mjeseca
    There is nothing you can do to control the ocean or the weather.

    • You must try to survive and thrive as long as you can.

    • You must work together to steer the boat and stay afloat.

    • Many things can impede you, such as stormy weather and rough seas.

    • Ocean currents can sweep you in different directions.

    • At some point later in the journey one of you will be taken by the ocean or a storm.

    • One of you will eventually be left alone in the boat.

    • The journey is worthwhile and, despite its many challenges, can be deeply enriching.
  • Metalledje citiralaprije 2 mjeseca
    some point, you decided to have a partner and you began to sail together in one boat. In this analogy, the boat represents your relationship. The ocean and the weather represent the forces of life. The horizon represents your ultimate destiny.
  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    There is something about love that will see you not loving the person but loving the courage in them. You love the courage of your small child—you see this when the very small five-year-old runs onto a very big soccer pitch. You love the courage of your partner, who carries a great burden without complaint. You love the courage of your mother or father, who keep hidden the pain of illness.
  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    Here is someone who should make me feel more secure, confident, important, significant and worthy than I am. Here is someone who should help me forget my inadequacy, isolation and sense of confusion. Here is someone who should help me to not feel so vulnerable.’ The narcissist might seek a trophy partner to achieve this; the dependent might seek a partner to hand over responsibility; and the control freak might seek someone to submit. To greater or lesser degrees, we all seek someone who makes us feel good and right about ourselves.
  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    You prefer to turn your face away from the cliff edge, from the terrifying and majestic landscape of creation, towards the small corner you have secured. There, you arrange and rearrange your achievements, gathering honours, successes and mementos, lining them up to display them to the passing world with pride.
  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    Every time your partner lets you down, they expose you to the truths of life. The uneasy truth is this: both of you are ordinary, fumbling and beautiful mortals.
  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    Excessive criticism proves to us, in the most primitive of ways, that we are achieving some kind of victory.
  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    Our relationships must not be the only well from which we draw the sustenance to find meaning and significance in life. They must not be the only place within which we encounter the divine. They must not be the only vessel within which we empty the anxieties and terrors of life.
    We must draw from other sources. The qualities, inspirations, virtues, visions and imaginings from these other sources are poured over the angst of
  • Mariya Rafalovichje citiralaprije 8 godina
    . There is usually a tipping point where you realise that the primary purpose in the relationship or the marriage is no longer to love, but to serve your self-importance.
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