Social Skills for the Overthinker

Is the thought I’m having or the story I’m telling helpful to me?
Do I have any evidence for the conclusions I’m making here?
Can I replace these thoughts with something a little more moderate

difference it makes to talk about your experiences versus your identity

absolute qualities and traits instead of transitory behaviors and events.

always, never, everyone, none, forever, completely, nothing.

rather that you’re getting into the habit of not assuming that your first assessment is correct, and that it is possible to think more accurately and helpfully about a situation.

Whenever you experience emotions or thoughts, try to label them separately.

Feelings can often be summarized in one word (e.g., happy, scared), while thoughts are the ideas that drive or follow those feelings.

Jaime felt that not only was the supervisor angry/annoyed (mind reading) but also that she herself was the cause for it (personalizing).

Is there any evidence for these assumptions, conclusions, and judgments?
Are expectations and standards too high or unrealistic?
Is there something positive in the situation that is being ignored?
Is there some room for more self-compassion?

it’s just an interaction, not the defining moment of your life.